using your Truth Love Energy to learn how to choose, and to choose how to learn
My first need is security and this need could be so strong at times that it's crippling, bringing me to the point that I can't move, or make any decisions
So I want to address it and I also want to know where it is initiated from (I am always interested in the "WHYS" and "HOWS")
A lot of my friends think it's not important to know the why and how, but it's important to me
It might be my Scholar role.....
So I asked Michael
[Hani] Last time we talked about my need for Security, I am wondering where this comes from? Why am I so challenged when it comes to this need? Anything you could add that would be helpful is great, also whenever I leave an intimate relationship, I have the feeling that my ex will try to hurt me now, is this related to my need for security or has some other reasons be behind it
[MEntity] The key here is in your fear of punishment. We are not clear on where this may have originated, but with some introspection, you may be able to find a pattern in your history.
[MEntity] Your Security is linked to "protection" so that when you are in any state that hints of having little or no control, or involves a quality of the unknown, or uncertain, you must revert to isolation or solitude for that protection.
[Hani] Are you suggesting, this is what I should do, or this is what I do?
[MEntity] We are speaking to what you do as your form of security. Understanding the motivation for your move to solitude, and your concern for harm, can help you to make more conscious choices.
[Hani] That's true, I feel like running away
[MEntity] Knowing this is half of the battle, so to speak. The rest is choice.
[Hani] Anything else that you think might be helpful or should I ask my next question?
[MEntity] This means that when you catch yourself moving toward isolation, you can allow for that, but make a different choice along with it. Something different. Something new. Reach out a bit more than you would.
[Hani] reach out to who or what?
[MEntity] This may not be easy, at first, but would grow to be more comfortable as you gain experience that proves a different kind of security can be secured.
[MEntity] In your case, there would be two directions toward whom to reach out. One is toward anyone with whom you have established a sense of trust, and the other is back toward the one from whom you feel you have started to run.
[MEntity] If there is no evidence of potential harm from that person, you may wish to practice ownership of your feelings, your fears, and to share these.
[Hani] The only person I feel I can trust is my brother, but he is not cooperative all the time
[Hani] Share the feelings with the person I am running from?
[MEntity] Yes. Of course. If that person has given you no valid reason for those fears, and they are simply your own, you can try to reach out, to share, to own your part of the equation.
[Hani] Ok I can try that
[MEntity] This would be "huge."
[Hani] it would be really strange for me, but I can try
[MEntity] It may not be easy, nor comfortable, and certainly would trigger your insecurity, but there is validity to the cliche that 'the only way out is through.'
[MEntity] If you choose not to do this, there are other ways, but this is a more immediate way to transform this pattern from the core.
[Hani] what are the other ways?
[MEntity] Developing trust with a psychologist; making active choices in other areas of your life that help counter those motivated by fear; working on the issue through dream programming; etc.
[Hani] sounds great, those seems much easier :)