Michael: "Self-doubt and insecurity are not undermining qualities in themselves, but can be hijacked and used as such. But when affection and humor is mixed with those qualities, a kindness emerges."       

From a Private Live Chat with Michael on December 7, 2012:  

[Maureen]: Dream – December 7, 2012: I was in what seemed vaguely like our old family kitchen. I was there with my friend Hélène and she was said something about having eaten beans that day. I said to her – “So you must be “full of beans” then?”. My husband in the dream was Tommy Lee Jones, the actor (an Old King, I think, who I like just as much as Christopher Noth), beaming proudly, said to my friend – “See – she’s so nice – even her jokes are nice”. I went up to him and held his face and said “You’re nice”. He smiled and went into the other part of the kitchen (Hélène had her back to him) and did something sweet and goofy that only I could see.

I then proceeded to pull up a chair in front of Hélène (she was already seated) and in the dream I got to choose either a “director’s” type chair that they have at our beauty salon (that I sat on once when I did an impromptu “teaching session”) or a white metal chair that was from our old house, from my youth. Both were “pedestal” chairs (which made me laugh when I woke up – as it was as if I had put myself “on a pedestal”).

I chose the white metal that I remember from my youth. This dream seemed like an extension of my Christopher Noth dreams – please comment.

[MEntity]: This appears to have been a dream that was working out an important, common ground between affection and insecurity. This was an exploration of Self-deprecation, and the way through it.

[MEntity]: Insecurity is natural, but because it is often equated with weakness, defenses build against it. In our system, this defense is described by Arrogance and Self-deprecation.

[MEntity]: The theme in this dream appears to have been emphasizing that feeling as if one is "full of beans," or being put on the spot, or other forms of self-doubt, can be soothed through affection and humor.

[MEntity]: Self-doubt and insecurity are not undermining qualities in themselves, but can be hijacked and used as such. But when affection and humor is mixed with those qualities, a kindness emerges.

[MEntity]: The choice in chairs appears to speak to your choice to remain humble, self-doubting, and remembering your "roots," so to speak. This is not a rejection of the other chair, but when that chair is necessary, you can choose it. With loved ones and family, the choice is more casual. Context and stance when teaching are important.

[MEntity]: There are many messages that can be embedded in dreams, so we suggest this as one way of seeing what you described.