using your Truth Love Energy to learn how to choose, and to choose how to learn
One of the most noticeable changes that has occurred to me since processing my 4th Internal Monad in positive poles has been a noticeable relaxation in my double CF of arrogance. Intimacy has always scared me. It took little to make me slam backwards and dive within, but disagreements were guaranteed to do so. Not so much other peoples' disagreements, but ones which involved me. I would have been one of the loudest voices discussing "peace and harmony" aka agreement on forums. That has changed. I no longer care.
But, I still wonder how much of the real person any of us are seeing.
Tonight, as I was reading one of Bill Moyer's latest transcripts, an interview between him and Sherman Alexie, they touched on a subject in "just" the right way that triggered my thinking about our various recent contretemps -- disagreements. It began with my uncomfortableness with Facebook:
The Facebook Sonnet.
Welcome to the endless high school
Reunion. Welcome to past friends
And lovers, however kind or cruel.
Let's undervalue and unmend
The present. Why can't we pretend
Every stage of life is the same?
Let's exhume, resume, and extend
Childhood. Let's all play the games
That occupy the young. Let fame
And shame intertwine. Let one’s search
For God become public domain.
Let church.com become our church.
Let [us] sign up, sign in, and confess
Here at the altar of loneliness.
BILL MOYERS: Sherry Turkle has written a book called Alone Together on just this point. Talking about how the internet has produced this serial isolation.
SHERMAN ALEXIE: Well, when I think the human is so complex, you know? And as we're relating here, we're relating on so many different levels that we don't consciously understand. I mean, we're actually smelling each other right now, but our, we, as we talk, don't know that, but our bodies know that, you know? My gestures, your gestures, the look in your eye. And the internet takes all that away. There was, there is one level of communication on the internet, which actually in a way is really insulting to the complexity of being human.
BILL MOYERS: How so?
SHERMAN ALEXIE: It limits us to one sense.
BILL MOYERS: One dimension.
SHERMAN ALEXIE: One dimension. And that's not who we are. The poetry, if you will, of life is reduced to this sort of dry, scientific, you know, it's the worst sort of précis of who we are. And, you know, I don't have Facebook friends. I have friends. And a lot of my friends play basketball. And when we play basketball together, literally, we're touching each other.
And that can't be replicated in any form whatsoever with the internet. And when people say they're really connecting with somebody, I think, it occurs to me that I don't know that they've ever really connected with anybody if they think the internet is how you do it.
You know? It's postcard relationships. In order to know somebody through their words, I mean, it has to be an, it has to be a letter, you know? It has to be a long e-mail. It has to be a five-page hand-written letter, you know, it has to be overwhelming and messy and sloppy as humans are.
That last has become a truth for me, "it has to be overwhelming and messy and sloppy as humans are." This doesn't mean that I'm partial to flamewars, but to honest exchanges. We all have such variable backgrounds and perspectives, I really don't see how we can be all that much in agreement on "everything."
I know for example that I'm in strong disagreement with Troy on several issues that are subject to his trigger-happy rants. I simply no longer bother to argue them as they've been argued previously. And, I'm unwilling to put our friendship at risk. But, I guarantee you all, that "Fuck you, Troy," gets stated a whole lot more often mentally than most people know. And, I do see why many feel he is patronizing. He's bending over backwards so hard to NOT rant that he comes across as insincere. I don't think he knows how to disagree without ranting. But, in time . . .
I think the disagreements are healthy. It's one way to express choice. It's also another way to strip off pieces of imprinting and conditioning. Prick the balloons of our self conceit and unquestioned beliefs. We may not change one anothers' minds today, but it allows in some sunshine that may melt an untampered block of ice sometime in the future.
What's the point of having an active site with virtually no censorship unless we USE it? Perhaps, we need to find that no-man's land of in between flamewars and unwillingness to express disagreement. because it might upset someone else?
What say you?