My daughter

I hope it's not weird that I'm posting this here. My beautiful daughter Rosalie Lightning died suddenly yesterday. She was 3 weeks shy of her 2nd birthday. I guess I'm putting this here because I need to hear from others who have lost, especially children. 

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Permalink Reply by Sally Forsberg on November 21, 2011 at 6:54pm

Oh Leela, I am so sorry to hear about Rosalie.  What a terrible shock and huge loss.  I am glad you posted this here so we can all circle you with love.  I don't want to write a long post here about my personal story but I have experienced the loss of a daughter, 22 years ago, at 5 weeks old, though it was due to relinquishment and not death, though at the time it felt the same to me.  It was the hardest thing I've ever gone through and there were times I felt I wouldn't survive the grief.  The first year was definitely difficult.  People began to worry about me, and in that spirit a friend brought me a copy of Seth Speaks and right after I finished reading it I found a copy of the first two Michael books in a box set out on the street. I can honestly say those books saved my psyche if not my life.  So, from my perspective, you already have the best tools to get through this, your understanding of life and death and what it is.  The rest is just time and tears and more time and more tears.  On some level, before I even read the books, I knew I was being given a unique opportunity to experience, or understand...SOMETHING.  And I knew that "something" wasn't to be wasted.  It helped me keep my mind and heart open through the grief.  You are in my heart.

Permalink Reply by Laurel on November 25, 2011 at 2:07pm

Dear Leela,

It is not weird to reach out for support from any and all of the communities that are important to you. We are here, thinking of you and your daughter, and surrounding you both with light and love. My deepest sympathy to you on the loss of your daughter.

Laurel

Permalink Reply by Jana on November 25, 2011 at 9:40pm

Leela I am so very sorry to hear this.

Just yesterday I have come across an article dealing with a death of a child. The article is in Czech language, but anyway, if you feel like it, you can try to put it through Google translate, for what it's worth. I have just tried it and the result is not too bad. For the most part it talks about what people might be experiencing in this situation.

The article also refers to a support group called Long Way, which is a Czech group founded by a lady who suffered a death of her child herself. I would imagine a similar organisation/group/centre or even more than one exists in NY.

I am thinking of you, sending you my deepest sympathy and hugs.

Permalink Reply by SUSAN on November 26, 2011 at 10:06am

you are in my thoughts and, my prayers - as, well as your daughter, and, extended family; and; friends too - much love, to you - susan

Permalink Reply by Linda Dragas on December 4, 2011 at 5:10pm

Dear Leela,

I am just learning of your incredibly devastating loss of your precious little daughter.  I am so very shocked and sad for you and your family.  I don't know of anything that will comfort you now, but please know that you are cared about way more than you will ever know and that all of your Michael friends are holding you in love.  I have always admired your spirit, intelligence, humor, and integrity and I know that you must be surrounded by some good people to help you through the worst thing that could happen to a person.

Much love always,

Linda

Permalink Reply by Mary Lou Oxley on December 12, 2011 at 8:32pm

I wish I knew what to say.  I mean I can think of all the platitudes that people say.  and in time they may help you. But right now, you are hurting.

I lost a baby at 2 days old.  and it still can cause me pain if I let it.  I cannot begin to understanding a little person for almost 2 years.

All I know for me,  knowing that life does not just end helps. knowing that there was a purpose her her birth and her death has helped me, though it took me so many years to find a possible reason.

No death is ever useless or senseless.  even the deaths from violence when the first thought is that it is, there are lessons that can be learned thru the pain.  Now if my husband or children were taken by violence I would be hard pressed to remember this so I hoped someone would be there to help me remember it.

all I know is that you cannot hurry it.  and everyone finds there own peace and way of dealing with it. there is no set time frame. 

Yes, it is not an ending it is a beginning in a new way of life for the child who has passed.  Yes there is a lesson in her death.  But your loss is real for you and valid for you .  hugs

 

Mary Lou

 

Permalink Reply by Leela on December 13, 2011 at 8:05pm

Thanks, Mary Lou. Two days...I can't imagine. Every pain is different, even though there is universality in it. 

Permalink Reply by Janette on December 15, 2011 at 12:00pm

Leela, I feel as though there are no words to describe how you must be feeling now.  I was so shocked and saddened when I read about your beautiful daughter Rosalie.  I am sending you as much love and positive thoughts as I can!  

Permalink Reply by Ann H on January 29, 2012 at 7:13pm

Leela,

I did not see this posting until all these months since.  I have not been very active lately.   I am so terribly sorry for you loss.  There are no words.

My heart goes out to you during this difficult, awful time.

Permalink Reply by Astra Allen on February 22, 2012 at 9:11am
I don't know you, but I'm in the last leg of the mature cycle so I can tell you that I feel your pain. I cannot imagine how hard that must be. I have a child as well and don't know what I would do if I were in your place. I hope you still have warm friends and family around you to help you get through this time...and I hope the sorrow will soon walk you down the path to beautiful memories. What helps me with the pain of death is knowing how connected we all are and that we will all be together once again. This is not the end for the two of you.

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